Snap backs & tatoos

Day 7: tattoos you have and the meaning. 

I have a measly one tattoo. It’s the symbol for the Taurus zodiac.  I hope to get another tattoo in the upcoming months. I have to just go out and do it and not think too hard. 💁🏾

Fascinating 🤔

Day 6: Someone who fascinates you and why?

I’m fascinated by a person or people who are able to live their lives to the fullest without caring about what other people might think or say about it. I’m still working on this. Not saying that I don’t do what I want to do in my life. For me it’s more of a how is this gonna make person X feel. I realize sometimes that I’m too concerned about how the next person is gonna feel and they aren’t worried about me in the situation. That being said, I have to put me first sometimes. Putting me first doesn’t mean fuck everybody else. For me it means I’m doing XYZ and if you’re on board then let’s go, if not then I’ll see you later 💁🏾. No hard feelings. 

If it don’t apply…let it fly

So it’s day 5 of my 30 day writing challenge. The prompt for today is to write about some place I want to live but have never visited. There no where that I want to live that I haven’t already visited 💁🏾. 

Some places like Georgia appeal to me but then the whole “it’s hot as f$&!” makes me second guess that. I do know I definitely want to leave NY…sooner rather than later. One state high on my list is Maryland (comment or send me a message/tips on what it’s like to live there). 

Don’t get me wrong I’m a New Yorker but I’m also a tired New Yorker. Cost of living, trash mass transit, traffic etc. There are so many different reasons to just live somewhere else. We’ll see how everything plays out. Until then I’m just trying to put myself in good positions until I’m where I want to be. Feel me? 

Curiosity killed the cat

Day 4: 10 interesting facts about me. Late post because honestly I was exhausted last night 😩.  I’m not sure how interesting these are but 🤷🏽‍♀️

1. I love to read/ learn new things. 

2. I write creatively 

3. I’m very introverted even if it doesn’t seem like it at times. 

4. I love cooking

5. Music is my life (cliche 🤷🏽‍♀️)

6. I have a bad temper

7.  I keep a lot of my thoughts to myself

8. I use humor as a defense mechanism

9. I enjoy “Me-time”. Sometimes I feel drained from being social/talking to people. 

10. I don’t like to speak things that I want to accomplish or am working on out loud sometimes (I don’t want to jinx it)

Love & Kisses

Day 3 wants me to put my business out in these streets lol. Day 3’s topic is “your first love and first kiss”.

My first love was different from anything I had ever experienced before as cliché as that sounds. I learned how to love from my first love. I am naturally a reserved person, with my first love I learned to be vulnerable. I have a lot of good memories from that period in my life. Everything in life is a learning experience. We grow, we make mistakes, we hurt, we cry & we laugh. Loving someone makes you feel like you’re not in control sometimes (and for someone like me, control feels necessary). Love comes with its ups and downs. Sometimes things don’t go as you planned, and it hurts but you learn to get better. I could never feel bitter towards anyone or thing I’ve ever loved. If I ever said “I love you” to someone, I meant it…otherwise I just would have never said it.

Now my first kiss lol. My first kiss seems like ages ago. It was with this guy I was dating at the time…puppy love kinda things. He was handsome, intelligent, funny and creative and a great kisser. I remember replaying the kiss in my head over and over that day because that’s what little girls do lol. Good times. He was a great kisser, we dated for some time and it was cool *shrugs*.

Day 2

Earliest Memory:

Let me start by saying my memory ain’t shit. That’s the honest truth. I can barely remember what I had for breakfast yesterday. This might not be my earliest memory but it sticks out to me because I was just talking about it the other day.

Every summer my mom used to pay for this summer camp. The Director (I won’t put her name) would come and pick us up from our homes and we would do so many different things. One day the movies. Another day the pool. Another day the amusement park. I think we often forget the joys of being a kid and enjoying childhood. Kids find amusement in the simplest of things but to them it’s everything. Isn’t it funny how as an adult we have to find multiple ways and/or things to keep us entertained?

The director of the program always made sure we had fun but also kept us in check. She definitely popped a few kids every now and then (nothing crazy). Point is she made sure we had respect and were not outside acting like we did not have any home training. I sometimes feel like people like her are few and far in between in this society. You might go tell little John (haha) to stop acting up, and instead of his mom appreciating you making sure he’s behaving, she’s telling you to mind your business.

You know that saying “it takes a village to raise a child”? Is having a village a thing of the past? I know growing up and still to this day, I have multiple people in my “village” that I could call on if i needed to. Growing up that was helpful. Sometimes you need wisdom or advice from someone that’s not your parent but still knows some things about life experiences.

 

 

Day 1

Five Problems With Social Media:

  1. Oversharing – We the audience/viewers/listeners etc, do not need to know every aspect of your life. Some things are and should be sacred. We are definitely in the age of blogging and vlogging, so yes we do tend to share things about our personal lives. I still think that some things should remain personal. The more information you give people, the more they think they know you, and the more they think they can judge you. They shouldn’t but they do.
  2. Less social beings- Social media lets us feel like we are being social without having to physically be present. The art of conversation and quality is lost amongst some people because we communicate by “likes” and memes. I’m guilty of this…there’s no need for me to call you when I can text or email you right? Social media lets us feel present for events even when we are not because we have features like Instagram and Facebook live and snapchat.
  3. Less action- Social media gives us a space to vent and be angry about things going on with us and in the world. Problem is we vent and then go back to our every day lives. Where’s the revolution?
  4. Accessibility– Ties in with Oversharing. The more you’re on social media, the more accessible you become. The days of reading a text message and responding later are gone lol. Now if someone text you and you don’t respond but they see you on another social media platform, they feel a way or feel ignored. Maybe some of you don’t feel this way (you ain’t shit lol) but I feel like now I can’t snapchat my meal because I didn’t respond to a text that I received 10 mins ago. Don’t get me started with read receipts…Everyone wants that instant response and instant gratification. I’m not saying take 2 years to respond but I can read your message and do something else before I respond (Sheesh).
  5. Facades- Are you actually having fun or are you just putting it on snapchat to look like you’re having fun? Sometimes we are so concerned with posting and updating that we forget to actually be present in the moment.